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no introductions needed...just straight to the points as titled...hikhik
There is the following hadith,
‘Souls are like conscripted soldiers; those whom they recognize, they get along with, and those whom they do not recognize, they will not get along with.’ (Saheeh al-Bukhaari, Kitaab Ahaadeeth al-Anbiyaa’, Baab al-Arwaah junood mujannadah).
Some might say, when you feel a
strong urge to enter a relationship, you might have found your soul mate. This
might be compatible with some people but might also not be.
Now, of course, this does not mean
that the relationship will last forever. Nor does it mean it's going to be like
a walk in the park. In fact, you can assume that you are going to come up
against some challenges with your soul mate. Where there is potential for the
greatest love there is also the potential for the greatest pain. Soul mate
relationships include both.
Of course who would want their
relationship to face a crisis or to be in pain. All of us surely want a
blissful relationship with our loved ones. But believe it or not, it’s
impossible. Because love and pain, both do exist within us.
Many of us are quick to write off
our relationships when the going gets tough, but I'm here to assure you that
challenges aren't necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it's supposed to happen
this way. Because what does not come upon us cannot be healed. People
spend a lot of time questioning whether or not they are with the right partner.
And usually this question arises when we feel pain or discomfort.
Someone said, "Seldom or never
does a marriage develop into an individual relationship smoothly without
crisis. There is no birth of consciousness without pain." Pain is the
opportunity; it literally is the call to wake-up and change.
Should I say this? To personally evolve
means to grow through the things that challenged us the most, we inherently
want to become greater people. Deep within us we are called make our way
through struggles and emerge victorious. Our Soul Mates are the people that
give us the opportunity to do so by triggering our issues so we can become
conscious of them and create a different reality.
There are so many difficulties on
being in a relationship especially in marriage because after all, it is our
partner that we will always face with. Eventually we will feel both love and
pain in when in relationship. It is eventually how we cope with certain
situations to make sure that we solve certain issues by avoiding the results
that causes pain.
Choosing love means we see people
despite their mistakes. It means we see the potential in our partners, actually
including our self, even when they cannot see it within themselves. It means we
are kind, compassionate, understanding, and forgiving, even when it's hard to
do. It means focusing on the good in somebody else, rather than the bad. It
means consciously committing to work through our stuff; to clean up our side of
the street. Could I say that this simply means, to accept each other despites
their lacks and deficiency.
Our Soul Mate is someone to grow with.
This doesn't come easy. They are going to challenge us in many ways, and that's
ok. Don't write off our relationship because it's difficult at times, understand
that the difficultly is an opportunity for us grow.
There is a quote that I’ve seen somewhere
before in Dawson’s creek, “ soulmate is like a best friend but more. It is one
person in the world who knows you better than anyone else. That someone who
makes you a better person. You do that by yourself because they inspire you. A
soulmate is someone you carry with you forever. It’s one person who knew you,
accepted you and believed you before anyone else did or when no one else would.
And no matter what happens, you’ll always love them and nothing could ever
change that”.
