SOUL MATES...

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no introductions needed...just straight to the points as titled...hikhik

There is the following hadith,

‘Souls are like conscripted soldiers; those whom they recognize, they get along with, and those whom they do not recognize, they will not get along with.’ (Saheeh al-Bukhaari, Kitaab Ahaadeeth al-Anbiyaa’, Baab al-Arwaah junood mujannadah).

Some might say, when you feel a strong urge to enter a relationship, you might have found your soul mate. This might be compatible with some people but might also not be.

Now, of course, this does not mean that the relationship will last forever. Nor does it mean it's going to be like a walk in the park. In fact, you can assume that you are going to come up against some challenges with your soul mate. Where there is potential for the greatest love there is also the potential for the greatest pain. Soul mate relationships include both.

Of course who would want their relationship to face a crisis or to be in pain. All of us surely want a blissful relationship with our loved ones. But believe it or not, it’s impossible. Because love and pain, both do exist within us.

Many of us are quick to write off our relationships when the going gets tough, but I'm here to assure you that challenges aren't necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it's supposed to happen this way. Because what does not come upon us cannot be healed. People spend a lot of time questioning whether or not they are with the right partner. And usually this question arises when we feel pain or discomfort. 

Someone said, "Seldom or never does a marriage develop into an individual relationship smoothly without crisis. There is no birth of consciousness without pain." Pain is the opportunity; it literally is the call to wake-up and change. 

Should I say this? To personally evolve means to grow through the things that challenged us the most, we inherently want to become greater people. Deep within us we are called make our way through struggles and emerge victorious. Our Soul Mates are the people that give us the opportunity to do so by triggering our issues so we can become conscious of them and create a different reality.

There are so many difficulties on being in a relationship especially in marriage because after all, it is our partner that we will always face with. Eventually we will feel both love and pain in when in relationship. It is eventually how we cope with certain situations to make sure that we solve certain issues by avoiding the results that causes pain.

Choosing love means we see people despite their mistakes. It means we see the potential in our partners, actually including our self, even when they cannot see it within themselves. It means we are kind, compassionate, understanding, and forgiving, even when it's hard to do. It means focusing on the good in somebody else, rather than the bad. It means consciously committing to work through our stuff; to clean up our side of the street. Could I say that this simply means, to accept each other despites their lacks and deficiency.

Our Soul Mate is someone to grow with. This doesn't come easy. They are going to challenge us in many ways, and that's ok. Don't write off our relationship because it's difficult at times, understand that the difficultly is an opportunity for us grow.

There is a quote that I’ve seen somewhere before in Dawson’s creek, “ soulmate is like a best friend but more. It is one person in the world who knows you better than anyone else. That someone who makes you a better person. You do that by yourself because they inspire you. A soulmate is someone you carry with you forever. It’s one person who knew you, accepted you and believed you before anyone else did or when no one else would. And no matter what happens, you’ll always love them and nothing could ever change that”.